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Namah Vol. 27, Issue 1, 24th April 2019

Pause and be with this feeling for some time responding harmoniously to life.
and then observe the shift.
Anger originates from fear and when we accept
If we are angry with ourselves for something life without resistance and flow with life, in
not done right in the past, think for a moment. trust, all fear disappears. Fear is becoming
Since that time, on how many occasions have rampant on the planet. We can see it every
we become angry at ourselves for our past day in the news, social media, etc. Fear is
behaviour and has anything changed for the a lack of trust in ourselves and because of
better in our lives by being angry? In fact it’s this we don’t trust life. Anger is fear that has
only damaging our own self-worth. become a defence mechanism.

Ask yourself if it is wise to get angry over The urge to control the present and the future
your past behaviour. If you hear No, then drops as soon as we unconditionally accept
ask yourself: what do I do with this anger or the present moment and surrender to the
habitual thought-pattern? The best answer is Now. This surrender to the Now makes us flow
just to release ourselves from the self-blame with life and respond to our life-situations.
game, realising it doesn’t serve our life. Once
you decide to release yourself from your past, This is not just philosophy but it is a fact that we
with a deeper understanding, tell yourself, all are capable of living in the Now. Of course,
“I am sorry to be so judgmental, angry and practice is the only key to arriving in this state
hard on you, knowing you did your best at of consciousness. One of the practices I suggest
that point of time.” Understand that no one is to stop re-evaluating our fearful situations in
comes into this world with a manual. We all our minds and love ourselves through the fear.
fall and learn and again fall and learn until Every experience, every situation and every
we finally learn that lesson fully for which relationship is the mirror of a mental pattern
we have taken birth. that we have inside of us.

Now, when we accept ourselves unconditionally Surrender is a purely inner phenomenon.
the way we are, we tell ourselves that it is It is to relinquish inner resistance to What
okay to make mistakes and move forward in Is. Surrender does not mean to cease taking
life and also allow others in our life to move action to change the situation at the outer
forward with ease and acceptance so that level. When you accept the ‘Isness’ of the
we can experience joy and love in our lives. present moment your actions taken are
a response to life rather than a reaction to
When we unconditionally accept ourselves, life. Such actions are far more effective than
we extend this understanding to others and the reactive actions. Surrender reconnects
imagine, as we all do so, that life becomes us to our true nature and life becomes a
more enriching and beautiful and we start celebration.

Sumit Bajoria is a businessman and practising life-coach, currently based in Mumbai, India.

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