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Namah                                     Vol. 27, Issue 2, 15th July 2019





        got so high that as he stumbled home in the  appears to be a chaotic and meaningless
        dark, he was almost run over by a speeding  world — form habits that are destructive.
        vehicle. Next morning, frightened and alone,  The paradox is that these same choices also
        he had no choice but to face the stark fact that  numb our minds and hearts and may stop us
        he would die if he continued on his reckless  from even committing suicide, or, in extreme
        path. His ex-girlfriend’s words came back  cases, from harming or killing our abuser.
        to him and he decided he would give the
        anonymous programme a chance.            This train of thought led me to consider my
                                                 own egoistic self. You see, my way of breaking
        His resistance to sobriety was so strong that  out of my birth matrix was to cultivate so
        he continued to slip back into addiction  strong a sense of self that I could fight all
        even after entering ‘the rooms’ as they are  opposition to my efforts to be free. No, I did not
        called. But thanks to the support of new and  want to be just another traditional Indian girl
        sober friends, and the 12 Steps themselves  forced into an arranged marriage; I wanted to
        (which provide a spiritual way for addicts  make my own choices and invest my precious
        and alcoholics who are ‘sick and tired of  energy in developing my potential. True, the
        being sick and tired’ to break the grip of their  life my parents wanted for me might have
        demons), he managed to stay sober for longer  given me safety, comfort, even luxury, but I
        and longer stretches of time.He began to paint  was convinced that material security alone
        seriously and to make money off his art; he  — especially if it came with a million caveats
        learned Hatha Yoga, began to meditate and  and restrictions — would never satisfy my
        took long hikes in upstate New York that  deeper yearnings.
        refreshed his weary body and soul. As his
        mind grew calm and his heart happy, he was  Later, when the seed for spiritual growth
        gradually able to clear the financial wreckage  awakened with a mighty roar, I realised to my
        of his past, to make amends to the many he  chagrin that that same sense of personal self
        had hurt, and to create a rich sober lifestyle.  that had helped me escape what I considered
                                                 a life of tedium now had to dissolve, or I would
        “Know what strikes me as most bizarre?” he  never make progress. No different than the
        asked me. “The fact that it was drugs and  guy at the party who had used intoxicants to
        booze that stopped me from killing myself  survive a brutal father, I had used a powerful
        as a teenager. They blotted out my pain and  sense of mini-me to break free of my shackles;
        gave me a false sense of happiness that helped  it struck me that now I would have to use
        me survive. Then of course these so-called  diligent intelligent efforts to destroy this old
        ‘friends’ turned into my enemy.”         and reliable servant (the ego) who had most
                                                 certainly shape-shifted into a callous master.
        I mulled over what he said for a long time
        afterwards. My own experience of sharing  Addiction is a many-headed hydra. It can take
        frankly with others on the inner path has  subtle or gross forms, and the worst one is
        taught me that many who are severely abused  not, in my opinion, enslavement to drugs or
        as children—or just prone to debilitating  booze, which can be given up at any time, but
        doubt and confusion about their role in what  to our own limited and limiting sense of self.


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