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Namah Vol. 31, Issue 4, 15th January 2024

about love. To love means to stay close because only in the Divine can it find its real
to the person you love; to love means to and its utter satisfaction (1).”
possess the person you love; to love means
the person now belongs to you, and are the But in our ordinary life, we want to possess
controller of his/her life; if I love someone, the other person, which is impossible, as
then I become jealous of anyone else coming the person is not limited and finite as he/
in close proximity to that person; to love she may appear to be, via our senses. And
means that the other person is responsible I am not a finite being, as I may falsely
for making me happy. perceive myself. So, my hunger and thirst
for contentment is also not finite, it is ever
increasing. As Sri Aurobindo says that since
it is the hunger of an Infinite being in us, it
cannot be satiated with little accumulations.
It can only be fulfilled in the Infinite (2).

Coming back to the common notions of love,
we torture and torment the people we claim
to love. But, first and foremost, we torture
All these notions do have distorted reflections our own self, in this incessant obsession with
of Truth actually; which is explained by Sri demanding and expecting from the other
Aurobindo in The Synthesis of Yoga, where he person like a beggar. We are all begging,
shares about the highest relationship possible and when I look at my own begging, in the
between the individual and the Eternal, as name of love, I can become conscious of
of a Lover and Beloved: the begging of billions of beings and pray
and aspire to be one drop of begging less
“Love is a passion and it seeks for two things, in the world full of begging. It is a torture
eternity and intensity, and in the relation of the to keep begging for love, for approval, for
Lover and the Beloved the seeking for eternity contentment and happiness. And the more
and for intensity is instinctive and self-born. we run in this manner to outward things or
Love is a seeking for mutual possession, and it persons, the more we suffer and are tortured.
is here that the demand for mutual possession
becomes absolute. Passing beyond desire of There must be a signal then, in this pain that
possession which means a difference, it is a comes from this incessant begging. What is
seeking for oneness, and it is here that the the universe trying to tell me? Where is the
idea of oneness, of two souls merging into each fulfilment that I seek?
other and becoming one finds the acme of its
longing and the utterness of its satisfaction. Kasturi kundal bhayi, mrig dhoondhe ban maahi,
Aise ghat ghat ram hain, duniya dekhat nahi.
“…. Moreover, this relation is that which
as between human being and human being Saint Kabir says that the Kasturi deer is
demands the most and, even while reaching seeking outside for the source of fragrance
the greatest intensities, is still the least satisfied, that he feels is so satisfying, and he keeps

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