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Namah Embrace Your Loneliness

I just don’t resonate with. There might be rely on what lies deep inside. The surface
a mutual lack of affection, not even flicker consciousness does not have the capacity to
of acknowledgment. The relationship might process these alone states. They only make
have outlived its purpose and reached a the ego shrink.
dead-end. Without any mutual recognition
comes isolation; it reflects and reinforces the
void that’s exists inside. Everything seems
so hollow when one feels trapped like this.
It really scars the ego!

Because of this, one might feel the greatest
sense of loneliness when one is in a crowd.
Imagine you are in a large conference
hall, amid throngs of people, all with their
own agendas. You feel lost as your eyes
desperately search for other eyes which might Outer and Inner Loneliness
offer the faintest flicker of response or warmth.
There is an outer loneliness and an inner
When one starts to grow in consciousness, loneliness. With the outer condition, one
one gets very sensitive to any surrounding has to constantly erect scaffolding to keep
sense of suffocation. When one finds oneself one’s life from falling apart. It is all the ego
living amid mundane society or company, can manage. This is a domain of makeshift
a loneliness will invariably appear. This responses and piecemeal solutions. It is a
happens because one is identifying with condition of the common man. It requires a
the illusion and not the rich resources that lie radical intervention or catastrophe to truly
inside. To be honest, it seems very real! From heal this affliction because it is only a reversal
my experience, whenever I go to the West, I of awareness that will completely work.
face this prospect of isolation. The focus always
needs to be adjusted and shifted. We need to Inner loneliness is much direr. It might be
fix ourselves always on the Truth. precipitated by intense grieving, bereavement
or loss. The being craves to recapture some
In Integral Yoga, any such difficulty must affection and love. The past is often idealised
be viewed as an opportunity for growth. and there is an aching chasm inside the heart.
Everything has to be processed and offered Very often though, we feel an intense ache
to the Light. All our attachments have to and we don’t know why. There is really only
be traversed and transformed. We learn one remedy:
a simple truth: do not expect anything from
anyone. If you do, you are sure to wind up “The inner loneliness can only be cured by the
hurt. Dependence and attachment will only inner experience of union with the Divine; no
fester loneliness The cause of loneliness is human association can fill the void (3).”
the tendency to drift to the surface away
from one’s ‘true home’. We can only truly The intense emptiness of this state can lead

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