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Notes on counselling

Dealing with broken love

Dr. Soumitra Basu

Abstract
A broken love is an important issue in counselling. Its genesis lies in the severance of oneness and is
experienced vitally as depression or aggression leading to vengeance. Instead of an analytical approach,
the passion and anguish of love can be shifted to a new poise of consciousness or a higher paradigm of
love.

One of the most important issues faced the heart-breaking anguish in Elvis Presley’s
in counselling is the agony and anguish golden voice, “Shall I come back again?” in
of a subject with a broken love affair. It his famous song, Are you lonesome tonight?
is something that cuts across all cultures. It
is also something that cannot be addressed And yet the response is not always the same.
through moral sermons, ethical guidelines or Human love is egoistic and is actually a form
rational approaches. Love bursts all norms of self-love. As such, any severance of this
and standards of conduct for that is the nature love can result in intense despondency and
of love — to blossom for its own sake. depression that can lead even to nihilistic
attempts. There can also be a reaction of anger
For youngsters, love arrives riding on the at having been betrayed when a love affair
waves of passion. Conservatives will argue ends ignominiously. That anger can swell
that passion is a child of desire but the buoyancy into intense hatred and stimulate an attitude
of youth does not care for that. For them love of vengeance and revenge. If one feels that
is a bond that sings of oneness. In fact it is in the cause of the broken love is due to the
the severance of oneness that lies the genesis intrusion of a third subject, an acrid jealousy
of broken love. Love sprung up to heal the can be aroused. The sceptic might say that
division and reinstate the primal oneness this is unbecoming of love. But at a certain
in creation.That is why when the bond of plane of vital consciousness, this is the mask
love is broken, there is so much agony. It that love wears.
is not surprising that one yearns to re-live
the experience again. One is reminded of The Vital is that plane of consciousness that

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