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Forgiveness and reconciliation

Denis Capdeville

Abstract
This article looks at the ontological nature of a thought as a concrete object, though on a subtle
level. Thinking consistently over the same topic is nourishing a unique thought, which is
empowered and thus becomes autonomous. Whenever it is a thought of worry towards another, it
hypnotises us in return, preventing us to forgive. Once one is under the power of such a thought,
forgetting becomes nearly impossible. To overcome this pattern of non-forgiveness, one should
acknowledge this occult reality of nature and power of a thought. Afterwards, one should shift
this morbid tendency to obey to this thought, that was initially created, to the pioneering way to
let it go. Some tools may help us in this innovative behaviour.

Carrying versus letting go The first monk looks surprised and asks, “What
are you talking about, what is prohibited?”
You may know this story of the two monks “Have you forgotten everything?”, asks the
and the woman. While preparing to cross the second monk. “You carried this woman on
river, two Zen monks meet a woman who your shoulders!” The first monk laughs and
also wants to cross but who is afraid. One replies: “Yes, I carried her. But I left her by
of the monks takes her on his shoulders and the river, miles and miles back. But you, you
carries her to the other side. The other says are still carrying her!”
nothing but is furious inside because what
the monk has done is forbidden! A monk Thoughts are objects on a subtle level, and
must not touch a woman. And not only did carrying a thought is similar to carrying
he touch her, but he also carried her on his a physical item. It may become heavy,
shoulders. After many kilometres, they reach burdening and prevent us from moving easily
the monastery. Going through the door, the and comfortably. Carrying something for
angry monk turns to his companion and long, be it a thought or an object, is not the
says to him: “Well, I’m going to have to tell usual and free way we should be moving
the Master about this matter to let him know through life. We may have to carry something
what you did because what you have done is from time to time, from place to place, but
forbidden.” it should only be for a given purpose, for a

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