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Namah Vol. 27, Issue 1, 24th April 2019

tyrannised our childhood. When we grow up people. For example, if one is abused by a
we start tyrannising children, all the while parent, some other similar-looking person
knowing exactly how bad it feels. We have may trigger fear or anger. Sometimes a single
internalised what we wanted to run away phrase or the timbre of a voice replays an
from. This is the way bad patterns pass down unpleasant memory. If we can be conscious
the generations. And this is why we have to of our emotions, we can defuse the trigger.
transform our external nature. Take the bull Meditation helps in developing a witness
by the horns. consciousness that stops us before we react
to the trigger. With proper understanding of
Breeding of criminality the aggressor, an emotionally independent
person can try to pardon them.
At last, the authorities have realised this
surprising truth. To stop crime, you must treat The Mother was five-years-old when she
children well. Future criminals are growing started training herself in mastering her
up in dysfunctional families. A certain event emotions. She was not fortunate enough
demonstrates this well. In Brazil, a few to have parents to guide her, but she was
decades back, abortion was legalised on the an extraordinarily awakened child. After
advice of sociologists. They found crimes a quarrel with her friends, she used to sit
were committed by those who grew up as on a stool alone in a room and ponder. She
orphans or street kids. And where did they reasoned thus: “Why am I feeling bad? It
come from? From unwanted pregnancies. was the others who were mean. It is they who
They were abandoned by their parents and should feel bad”. And then she felt better.
were never shown love. They grew up without She had become so strong emotionally that
knowing human kindness and when they when she forbade someone they obeyed her.
killed someone they felt no pang. They could She ordered her father to stop spanking her
not empathise with the victims’ or their brother when she was just a child. Her father
families’ pains. Within a generation of the immediately stopped and never again beat
abortion policy, crime rates fell dramatically. his son (2). In the same way she put school
bullies in their place. She taught a boy who
Children living in toxic households, who have used to fly into a temper that every time he
no power to control their life-situations and had the urge, he should stuff his hands in his
people around them, need special attention. pockets and count to ten.
Child welfare organisations or schools can
give them resiliency training. They will An unruly vital may be a trouble-maker, but a
learn to protect themselves, physically and refined vital is an ally. It helps us concentrate,
psychologically. As victims, they will not keeps us healthy, helps us excel in whatever
dwell on why they fell, but learn to pick we do; it brings love in social life and harmony
themselves up quickly and get out of the way, at work. When the vital is given scope to
both literally and figuratively. Battered and enlarge, it cooperates with us and makes us
abused people have many painful memories. better human beings. The Mother spent a lot
These get triggered suddenly. The triggers can of time instructing teachers and captains of
be events, or simply the presence of certain the Ashram school on how to handle children.

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