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Namah                                             Protecting innocence





        She has protected children from their  Yet we are always comparing — ourselves,
        parents, sometimes even scolded them for  other people, events, memories, artwork,
        demanding the child’s love without returning  literature, performances, and so on. It is hard not
        it (3). She wrote a booklet called The Ideal  to compare because we are mental beings, and
        Child, and another that goes with it, called  the mind works by classification, correlation,
        The Ideal Parent. Certain schools in the US  assigning relative grades. Comparing ourselves
        now have self-awareness programmes for  with others is a subconscious habit, which
        children. It teaches compassionate listening,  gets reinforced when we are compared as
        compassionate parenting, compassionate  children. Very easily we cross the healthy
        leadership, social harmony, conflict resolution,  limit and become competitive, jealous, angry,
        meditation. Parents who hurt their children are  afraid, conceited. With the help of the
        also coached.                            witness consciousness, we can catch ourselves
                                                 comparing. The next step would be to replace
        The act of being conscious of others around  it with true understanding. Comparing
        us, of being able to empathise with them,  children with anyone else often maims
        feeling part of a whole, were deeply ingrained  the child. There is a slim chance that this
        in ancient traditions. In the Upanissads it is said  will spur him on, but more often it will
        you can be free of fear and delusion when  discourage him and make him hate the
        you realise everything is You. You can truly  person he was compared to. Siblings are
        love when you realise it’s all the same Self.  often compared, with the result that they
        In other religions too, there are variations  end up hating each other.
        of the Golden Rule and the parable of the
        Good Samaritan. In indigenous cultures  Some people are overly critical of others.
        around the world there was no concept of  Criticism without goodwill behind it makes
        private property. The pre-digital era had  the victim spiral downwards. Everyone,
        fables, fairy tales, pañcatantras, puraannas to  especially children, should be encouraged,
        teach good and evil to children. When these  even if one thinks they do not merit it.
        same tender brains are fed war video games,  Encouraging is different from praising.
        it is not surprising that they grow up with  Encouragement acts as a self-fulfilling
        personality defects. It would be nice to have  prophecy, just as discouraging does. Not
        a vital education programme for children of  encouraging a child creates long-term psycho-
        all classes, irrespective of whether they can  logical defects in the child. He never gets
        afford a school with self-awareness training  enough self-confidence, sometimes to the
        or not. And this programme should include  extent of sabotaging himself to prove his
        all the adults in their community, not just the  elder’s poor opinion of himself. Praising too
        hurtful parents. Parents who have a strong  easily can become counter-productive, but
        character don’t need to work hard educating  keeping silent is worse.
        children. They are always teaching — by
        simply being good role models.           Carefree days?


        Each one is endowed differently; each soul  The best memories we have are from childhood:
        has come down for a different experience.  of those carefree days we spent with loved


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