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Attachment to Love — Darkness to Light

Dr. Monica Gulati

Abstract
As human beings, our journey is from attachment to non-attachment, or from suffering
to bliss. We all think about and have imaginations about unconditional pure love. But as
human beings it is mostly not our reality. Our love is mixed with a lot of physical/emotional
wants, insecurities, dependencies, with mental opinions and rigidities. Owing to this mixture
present in us, we suffer and struggle; we get entangled, and have conflicts and dramas in
our relationships. Is it possible for us to use attachment/suffering and entanglement as raw
material on this path of sadhana? Is it possible to use attachment as raw material to move
towards love? This article explores this possibility in the context of day-to-day human life.

fresh air around them. But very soon reality
dawns and we see that depending on another
person for emotional security and fulfilment
is an abuse, a torture, an entanglement, and
it just complicates life. We can clearly see
that no matter how close a person may be,
he/she cannot fulfil all our desires, or we
cannot make the other person a source for
our peace, contentment and happiness. It is
The base camp of attachment just not possible. The more demanding or
expecting we become in a relationship, full
As human adults, at the ordinary level of a vital/emotional vigour, full of mental
of consciousness, we start our journey rigidities and opinions, the more abuse,
towards pure Love from the base-camp of entanglement comes into that relationship.
attachment. What we call ‘falling in love’
is mostly/usually coming out of a sense of What to do?
lack — ‘you fill my void, I will fill yours’. In
the beginning, in these relationships, things This is our journey as human beings: to
are new and exciting and have fervour, a start from attachment, to see what torture,

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